Parents Caring for Parents Support Thread (Part 2)

MaineLonghorn
Wed, 15 Apr 2026 01:00:10 +0000

I just returned from my six-day trip to Austin. When I first saw Dad, he smiled and gave me a hug. There wasn’t much animation after that. The second time I walked into his apartment, he was on his phone and I asked him what he was up to. Buying stuff! Some kind of site where you make money answering questions but you have to pay $170 to get started. Sigh. I tried to be gentle. I said, “Dad, your bookkeeper will be here shortly. Why don’t we ask her what she thinks?” By the time she arrived, he couldn’t bring up the page again.

His Lady Friend (LF) told me later that when she came, a little later, he was really angry. So I imagine that’s why he was cool to me the rest of the trip.

I spent two hours with the financial advisor, trying to get an account changed from Mom’s name to the family trust. Even the FA was flustered, it was all so arduous. I THINK we’re almost there. The FA needed Mom’s death certificate, and fortunately I had an extra one that my husband brought with him when he came the next day.

Dad was very quiet. He didn’t even say anything when his two granddaughters played a beautiful violin/piano concert for us. And one time when I walked in, he was awake but the TV WAS OFF. I know it’s hard to believe, but that is literally the only time in my life I have seen my dad in a room with no TV blaring (when there were no guests, I should add).

He made it to my friend’s wedding. From the front, I saw that when everybody stood for the bride’s entrance, he struggled to stand up using his walker but couldn’t do it, even with assistance. And he never said anything about how nice I looked (I even thought I did, ha) or what he thought of the ceremony. So I came home yesterday kind of sad.