Parents Caring for Parents Support Thread (Part 2)

DeeCee36
Thu, 09 Apr 2026 18:37:42 +0000

Youdon_tsay:

Does everyone get along enough to just let him do what he wants and trust that y’all can work it out fairly and amicably?

Probably, yes. We all get along, and I believe my brother would prefer the house be left to me and him to sell, too. I don’t see a scenario where he would want to live there (the upkeep alone would be a burden for him, never mind the sky-high NJ property taxes).

deb922:

Colorado_mom:

Any chance mom’s name is on the house deed? If yes then maybe(?) that supersedes anything in dad’s will.@DeeCee36 since the attorney is a family member, can you call and see where your cousin stands. He may be stalling also.

Yes, her name is on the deed, so maybe this is all a moot worry.

deb922:

@DeeCee36 since the attorney is a family member, can you call and see where your cousin stands. He may be stalling also.

I do not know him, at all. I have to believe he is not going to rush to do anything, as talking to my dad for 3 minutes it becomes apparent he isn’t in his right mind. My mom is hoping that when the cousin calls back, she can intercept the call (dad is in hospital, mom is home) and just make sure the cousin knows that he is neurologically impaired.