Parents in denial

mommusic
Wed, 23 Jun 2010 07:03:27 +0000

Agree with hadsed–the goal is to get the kid to wake up and think.

A couple of my kids (I’ve had 4 graduate from HS now) seemed to think for a while that they could get by on their good looks or talent…they were smart but didn’t want to dot the I’s & cross the T’s because they “knew that stuff”. I sympathized but pointed out that some other kid (perhaps not as brilliant) would get the grades and the acceptance and the scholarship, not them, and then how would they feel? One of mine really liked to sleep late and I sincerely believe if I hadn’t been around to drag him out of bed some mornings, he would have been a habitual truant and flunked out of HS. Really. Sorry, but that doesn’t happen in our family.

It took a while, but they came around. All got good scholarships to the school of their choice. (Good schools, not HYPS etc.) I’ll stop here cause the idea is not to brag, just to point out that some kids have to be persuaded more than others. They just think about today, and can’t see the future from where they are, cause they’re kids. Our job is to give them the benefit of our wisdom. ;)

bears & dogs–no one here is saying there is anything wrong with NOT going to college and instead going to a vocational school to train to be whatever your heart desires (if it requires training). Carpenter, plumber, nanny, hostess in a tea room…some people like low-stress jobs with regular hours that leave them time for other things. Money is not important. The point is, without an education, there will be no choices in your life.

And if this kid is getting Ds, he is not getting an education.