Party Schools- worried?

JKingNJmomOF2
Fri, 18 Mar 2022 03:38:53 +0000

I went to a big private party school in a city back in the early 90s…and no, not easy to get into. You will still find every type of group and kid. Bars, frats, house parties, drug culture, the works…but also clubs and quieter activities.
You have to know your kid…if they tend to be a responsible kid, even a partier…they will be ok and find the balance. If they are a kid who has a lot of issues with knowing their limits in HS or gets themselves into dumb situations you have to bail them out of all the time…maybe think twice about a party school or one with a huge Greek system. DEFINITELY, School them on staying in a group, never leave a friend behind or let your friend leave with people you know they don’t know well…being aware of surroundings, street smarts, not accepting drinks from strangers or acquaintances, keep your hand over your drink or your thumb over the top of your beer bottle…
Don’t over do it and keep your wits about you. We all have stories of things that went horribly wrong at college, or know people that couldn’t handle it and failed out. I know social party animals that did that, I also knew sheltered kids that never experienced anything in high school, whose parents didn’t talk to them honestly and then couldn’t figure it out when they were let loose on their own for the first time at college. I think be honest with your kids and they will be hopefully more honest with you. Let their grades speak for them, you will know if they are handling it ok. TALK to your kid regularly.
For the record, I managed to spend a lot of time at “The Library” and still graduated with a high gpa. I loved school, it made me grow up a lot and be responsible for myself. I have so many close friends still that I made at college.