People with strict parents: How often do you get beat?

Torveaux
Thu, 11 Feb 2016 01:28:01 +0000

What you are describing is the status-quo for many of us in my generation. My mother used better quality wooden spoons. The only one that ever broke was wielded by my sister, she missed me and hit the dryer. She got one of the few whoopings she ever received after that. Dad used a belt.

Me and my siblings are still very close to our parents and we have all achieved much more than our parents. I think we all use physical discipline to some degree or another, but considerably less that was used on us. We did not feel abused as our whoopings were measured and deserved for our behavior.

There can be a fine line between physical discipline and abuse. If you are struck on the buttocks in response to bad behavior, you are not likely abused except in the opinion of individuals who believe that any physical discipline is not OK. On the other hand, you could be struck simply due to the whim or mood of your parent or beaten until they tire or in a brutal fashion that is definitely abusive.

I am sure some will be appalled by my response. I think that many people who flatly refuse to spank their children can be every bit as abusive as those who spank.

Brantly, your analogy is simply silly. I cannot walk up to a random stranger and kiss them either. Are you suggesting I should not kiss my kids? I would say that people were much better behaved when more parents delivered measured spankings than today when so many children and young adults have no respect for authority. The trick will always be to spank, not beat. In response to behavior issues, not anger or mood.