Physically abusive parents

Novelisto
Tue, 03 Mar 2009 10:58:37 +0000

Hirokee – I’m only sorry we can’t help you as much as I’m sure we’d all like to. It’s not easy to keep the emotional abuse from bringing you down. When my parents would slap or hit me, it only made me furious and more intractable but you are right in saying that the verbal abuse is worse. Try every day to remind yourself that you are intelligent and worthy of love…try writing it down, and repeating it to yourself when the hurtful words are ringing in your ears.

When you come to the States, you will find that this kind of treatment is not acceptable. You will, if you try, find people to help you deal with the aftereffects of your ill-treatment and to help you not to repeat these patterns in your own future family. Perhaps you can even stay here permanently. Please remember that no matter what family pressure is brought, you don’t have to marry who they say, or live how they want you to live. You are a good and worthy person and you have rights even if you are still legally under your parents’ control. When you get here, check with your college counseling office for both psychological and legal help.