Picking College Via Boyfriend?

originaloog
Thu, 31 Jan 2008 06:46:46 +0000

Because she wanted to attend a college too far from home, she does seem to be reluctant to suddenly strike out on her own. By doing so with her boyfriend in tow could intensify the need for social, emotional and physical support from him. If this were the case it could prevent her from full participation in the campus culture and if a breakup were to occur could intensify the emotions involved.

However this is not certainly the case. A friend’s daughter traveled half way across the country to enroll in the college he bf was attending. She is quite outgoing and the relationship has cooled off substantially. However her current complaint is only about the weather this winter and she is diving into college life in other areas.

The choice should ultimately be her’s and your role is to give her perspective and advice. Whatever the decision, a mistaken one at this point in her life will merely be a learning experience in all likelihood. If the separation issues for her are very strong iyho, you could step up the p/a a bit.