Picking College Via Boyfriend?

starbright
Wed, 30 Jan 2008 23:39:35 +0000

I hear yet another power dynamic going on. She didn’t like the large one, now she does but for the wrong reasons. You were okay with the large one, now you know it’s (coincidentally!) wrong for her, and in fact the middle one isn’t good anymore either.

I honestly think you can’t win this by brute force. I have a feeling I would share your feelings, and frankly, I would find it very frustrating and scary. But objectively speaking, I think forcing her to one place away from bf will only undermine her college situation and hurt your relationship.

The reality is despite your obvious loving concern for your daughter, she will very likely be fine wherever she goes (hwy driving or not). Boyfriend may or may not drop out of the picture (I’ve seen numerous of mediocre HS students thrive in the college environment). She can always transfer. All will take its course.

I vote to just let it be.