Poor College choice...WWYD?

cptofthehouse
Thu, 14 Apr 2011 09:42:32 +0000

I know students happy, miserable, successful, dropouts at both schools. I think that if your kid wants to go to a school, you have a bigger advantage in terms of success. When you force a school on a kid, that is a bad start. Yeah, it can work out, but you have really started off on the wrong foot, and everything and anything that goes wrong at the college, and things will go wrong, I assure you, it will be on your head as far as your kid is concerned.

My oldest went to a school that we knew was not the best choice for him. It was the wrong school for a kid like him. But it was his choice. He wanted to go there. We pointed out the drawbacks. We ended up being right. That he made the choice,made things a bit more bearable and he made much more of an attempt to deal with his problems there since it was his choice. Had we forced it, he would have laid the blame on us and given up at the first problem. It was a powerful weapon,motivator, situation that he picked his own school, not us.

My current senior is picking a school that we don’t think is the best choice out of what he has. Fine school, but big, far, impersonal. We have pointed all of these things out, but he wants to go there over a very nice, nearer, private school with an excellent dept in what he thinks he wants to do. I feel that the smaller schools are better matches for him, but he likes this OOS biggie best. So I am paying the deposit today and will wish him the best. And pray that it works out for him.