Question about EA deferreds

crypto86
Sun, 20 Mar 2005 11:34:22 +0000

Ok, after this post I’m finished because I don’t want to turn this whole issue into something I’ll regret. You write:

“If you were a thoughtful person, instead of clinging to whatever conclusion you jumped to, you’d ask why I was wearing my PJs.”

I thought I’ve answered this question in several of my previous posts. But since you still seem to continue to miss my point, I’ll say it one more time. It’s none of my damn business what my interviewer wears when he or she interviews me. Talk about me being rude - in my family, asking people about the stuff they do, when it doesn’t harm you in any way, was instilled in my head as being very rude. What gives me the right to question what my Harvard interviewer (or anyone with more authority than I, being wiser and older) wears?

Also, I didn’t imply that you solely based your decisions on what the students wore; however, you’ve made it clear that attire is something that you think about if the attire isn’t “proper”.

If your posts intend to teach me that the clothes a person wears does indeed affect their personality, then there was no need - I’m aware of that. However, where our opinions divide is how important is that. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I’ve gotten the impression that you believe the only people who would ever attend a Harvard interview dressed “improperly” aren’t fit for Harvard anyway, and that is very wrong. Yes, you’ve said it wouldn’t be an issue to you if you learned during the interview that the student was an amazing person and said “I don’t think attire truly represents a whole person”, as similar to what you’ve said above. But whenever you continue to hammer down the point that attire does reflect personality, you always mention the “incapable” prospective Harvard student, who’s being pushed by his parents and so on.

I can tell that you are getting frustrated with my views. You think that I am questioning your authority of being a Harvard interviewer, which says that you obviously have “been around the block” and know a lot more about life than I do. But that’s my whole point above - about questioning authority. You personally wouldn’t see anything wrong in questioning your attire if you presented yourself in a way that you weren’t pleased with, or you think would offend or puzzle someone; I think questioning someone on that is rude. And you think me questioning you on this issue is rude, as you wrote above, as well as your consistent defense of your beliefs.

The whole and final (and repeated) point of mine is that though attire does reflect personality somewhat, I don’t pay one bit of attention to it. It’s none of my business. I just don’t like being told what to wear by whomever (Mr. CEO, society, my school, etc.); in my opinion that’s a restriction of freedom, and I do consider myself to be a free and progressive thinker. Of course I know there are boundaries (like no sexual innuendos, alcohol advertisements, etc. on clothing for school and formal occasions) but other than that, wear what you want to wear. Like I said, it’s none of my business. And if someone makes my attire their business (especially if I don’t know them that well), well then you’re gonna hear it from me bigtime.