Question about Tiger mom (or dad) parenting?

emeraldkity4
Fri, 05 Jul 2013 12:43:42 +0000

I won’t claim to be a tiger parent, but I will admit to trying to procure the most suitable education for my kids that I could beg borrow or steal, & that included going on many private & public school tours & open houses.
This was primarily for my oldest and started when she was a toddler for co-op preschools ( not quite 30 years ago) I did notice that in many instances more parents were looking for their sons rather than their daughters, although the programs themselves were balanced boys/girls.

Although she was ( really hate this word) gifted, I wasn’t looking for the most accelerated program, but one that was flexible enough to adapt to the students interests and abilities.
She attended a grade school for example that had class sizes small enough to have three grades in the room, but what grouping they were in depended on the activity not on their age.

Parents of boys, may have been looking at those programs for the same reason I was, to help their child have a successful experience- mainly continuing to enjoy learning. Neither h or I did very well in school - I dropped out of high school)

All the tours were necessary because schools varied so much. When I observed the gifted classroom for our neighborhood, they were working on handwriting.
It was so excruciating that I needed a cigarette when I finally left & I don’t smoke!
( everyone sat in traditional rows of desks with their eyes on the overhead. Hands in lap. They weren’t allowed to pick up their pencil before teacher instructions.)
The same school was also disciplining a very little girl by making her sit out in the hall by herself. She was still there when I finally left.:(

A parent of an active boy would probably find that school as unsuitable as I did, despite the " accelerated" program. Hence the increased interest in other options.