Rejected gayness

millerw16
Thu, 20 Dec 2007 23:19:16 +0000

True, but the thing about using it in common vernacular (I am guilty occasionally from being around it so much, but I try to stop) is that it is a negative connotation to it. It subconsciously perpetuates the stereotype, just as if I were to go around using the N-word without a trace of racial hatred in my heart. I wish it would go out of use as it I really think it is part of the problem, that problem being that homosexuality is still very much not-really-accepted by the whole of society (or at least American society).

Anyways, its no use beating someone up over the internet for political correctness. Even real life arguments usually end in both sides just bristling with animosity and unwilling to relinquish their initial stance. And without that personal element, you aren’t going to achieve anything except voicing your discontent to a bunch of people who don’t really care. Its the internet! You aren’t going to change his/her habits on it…

To the OP, college admissions in top schools are arbitrary. The essay matters a lot (the common AP and the supplement) and also her race/background along with the general tone of the application (what kind of person is she and would she fit in well with the atmosphere they are trying to create). I mean, it is people who are judging these applications. Maybe some of them were in a bad mood that day, or it could be that the competition is ridiculously fierce this year, or perhaps she was too well-qualified.

Being too well-qualified means that they feel that you have been groomed into the admissions process as opposed to just been yourself, tried hard, and explored what you wanted to explore. I obviously don’t know your friend and all of these details are subjective. Its really probable there is no good reason. I got deferred from Amherst ED on similar conditions, with a LOT of pull from two different people. It makes no sense, but there is no use crying over spilled milk. There are plenty of Northeastern colleges that will accept her if she is so well-qualified that she should go and explore these and perhaps maybe fall in love with another college. Thats what I have done. I was in love with Amherst, but as the deferral acceptance rate ain’t so great, I’m now equally in love with Bowdoin, Middlebury, Bates, and Wesleyan (and still Amherst, because it rules).

And worst comes to worst, you can always attend one college and transfer if it is truly that important.

Just my thoughts/opinions.