Responsbility for Adult Siblings? How do you handle it?

ChuckleDoodle
Sun, 06 Dec 2015 12:06:40 +0000

Interesting thread. I understand the dilemma this may cause some families. We took care of my mom and had her live with us for years, something I did not mind doing. Now that mom has died, my older brother keeps making hints that he’d love to move in with us- the basement is perfect and he could “see himself living there”. ugh. I don’t know when I became the family caretaker, but I had to firmly tell my brother that this was NOT going to happen.

Of course he has a one track mind and then brings up the possibility of getting placed in a nursing home near us (he currently lives 3,000 miles away and lives on his own) so we can visit him- like we did when mom was finally placed into a home. He is only 60 years old but has some medical conditions that could become long term problems. I can see this happening in about 10 years, but dear lord, I hope he is one of those people that dies suddenly and does not require any help. Although I “know” this is highly unlikely.