Responsbility for Adult Siblings? How do you handle it?

bookworm
Sun, 06 Dec 2015 12:39:55 +0000

ChuckleDoodle,

If I was n your situation , I’d never let Bro move in with me, but I wouldn’t mind if he was in an ALF nearby. I also would NOT visit more than once a week, nor take him to all medical/dental appointments. Something important, yes.

I see this pattern often in the ALF where I consult. The nieces will come for Thanksgiving but perhaps once a month, in general.

It is different when it is ones own parent, who appreciates what you do for them. My dad spent last 7 months of his life in an ALF. I could pop in for 20 minutes, buy him clothes or food, and work full time. My friends who didn’t work would spend hours visiting daily. I never felt guilty. When he needed more care, I hired an aide with a lovely personality. He didn’t realize she was private, just thought she liked him a lot.