Responsbility for Adult Siblings? How do you handle it?

ChuckleDoodle
Sun, 06 Dec 2015 13:57:55 +0000

@bookworm - exactly! So far I have told brother that this is not the house we will be living in a few years from now- we will be downsizing when we retire. Reminded him he hates the cold - we live in No VA and he lives in So Cal… and that he is a little young to be thinking that he won’t be able to take care of himself in the next two years.

I did tell him that if push comes to shove, he can live in an ALF near us. We would visit him, but not 3 times a week like we did with mom. That about killed me because I was working full time, taking a full course load for my master’s degree and helping the hubby get through chemo treatments. Of course, most of this will be completed by the time he is ready for ALF, but I’m selfish.

I also wonder why I’m the one that gets to ‘handle’ everything. I really need to work on this codependency problem I have.