Responsbility for Adult Siblings? How do you handle it?

EarlVanDorn
Fri, 04 Dec 2015 06:55:57 +0000

My mother cared for her childless aunt, who lived to be something like 94. I remember when she had someone take the distributor cap off her car to render it non-operational, because my aunt was literally a one-woman demolition derby. One sad thing is that the person who does the most for these people is always presented as the one who does the least. So whenever anyone would visit my great-aunt she would immediately complain that my mother never came to see her.

Mother convinced some friend of hers to take her aunt to a doctor’s appointment because she couldn’t do it. My aunt was quite deaf. While they were sitting in the doctor’s office a very large woman walked in. My great-aunt leaned over to mother’s friend, put her hand up as if she was whispering, and screamed (I do mean scream) “That’s the fattest woman I ever saw!” The friend had only two words for my mother: “Never again.”