REVISIT Roommates Unreasonable

paying3tuitions
Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:59:03 +0000

Can an RA mediate the rules and agreements from now until the time she moves out? I think I’d be counseling my D to define things clearly with them in a way all consider fair. I’m more concerned about what happens next than what happened on the day you visited.

If she says she can handle it solo, believe her. She’s not a freshman. If she (not you) feels abused in the near future, then your D is always free to ask an RA to moderate a discussion to hammer out rules. If they don’t agree to attend a 4way meeting, the RA can meet with just those 3, shuttle diplomacy.

Some here say she should move out. It’s one answer. IMO If instead she could initiate a new deal she could live with, seeking help from an RA, hat’d be quite a growth and learning experience for your D. Maybe something good could come from this unpleasant experience.

Or, just keep listening to her vent.