Roommates Boyfriend is always at the apartment. Help?

Maria1996
Mon, 10 Sep 2018 06:52:33 +0000

So my roommate and I have been living together for 1 semester and we have 1 more to go before the lease ends. Last semester was great (no problems at the time). But over the summer she got an attitude with me and made up a ton of reasons she didn’t like me as a roommate and completely threw me off. Now we’ve been living back at the apartment for the new semester for 3 weeks everything’s been fine EXCEPT every week Mon-Fri her boyfriend stays the night

I understood the first week and was kinda confused the 2nd week but now I’m like wth. It’s now starting week 3 and her and her boyfriend stayed over the weekend which means when I go back to school tomorrow he’ll be there again all week. One problem is that since he doesn’t drive it means if she drives him up with her Monday he has no way to get home until she takes him back, Friday (if they even go back). Because he sometimes stays the weekends with her as well as the week he’s actually been at the apartment more than I have during this 3 week beginning of the semester (i go home every weekend)

I do have a boyfriend that also stays the night. However it’s a little different because I asked her before school started if she was fine with him staying the night 2-3 day’s a week because this was his last semester and he decided to commute. She immediately agreed to this and said it was no problem. My boyfriend also is never there unless I am, meaning he has other places to be (school, friends ect) Her boyfriend NEVER leaves. He has no friends up here, doesn’t go to school or work, and sits on the couch playing video games all day. Which annoys me because hes nice but sometimes I want the place to myself, when my roommate isn’t there. Though he is crazy quiet and doesn’t disturb me.

I’m nervous to bring it up because she flipped out over the summer for no reason and I don’t want to feel tense or passive aggressive in the apartment. I also don’t want her to start having a problem with my friends coming over or my boyfriend staying the night if I complain about her boyfriend. Because I’m super non-confrontational and have social anxiety (and because since her boyfriends always there I can’t get her alone but mostly the other reason) I want to text her instead of talk to her face to face because I can’t seem to accurately get my point across in person but I don’t know how. I know my personal skills are ass. What should I say or how should I word things? I can’t live with a third person, especially a guy, since that means I can’t walk around comfortable.