Roommates Boyfriend is always at the apartment. Help?

Undercrackers
Mon, 10 Sep 2018 23:17:33 +0000

First, I totally get your desire to enjoy your apartment alone when your roommate isn’t there. You signed up for one roommate, not two.

My guess is that your roommate started giving you attitude because she really just wants to live with her boyfriend, but her parents probably wouldn’t be down for that. However, she needs you because 1) you are female and therefore an “approved” roommate, and 2) you have the means to pay 1/2 of the rent/utilities, when he does not.

What are your options? One, you could have a talk with her (in person, be a big girl - tone and facial expressions get lost in texts) and try to negotiate boyfriend rules moving forward. Best case, you two can agree and abide and live harmoniously for the rest of your lease; worst case, she doubles down and makes the rest of your time together very unpleasant. Two, you could keep mum, grit your teeth through the end of your lease, looking for another roommate in the meantime with whom you can establish firm boyfriend rules up front. Best case, you get through the next few months with little conflict (because she’s getting what she wants); worst case, you bury your resentment, or wind up taking it out on other people.

If you think you can talk with her and she might be open to compromise, give it a shot. If you feel she will just resent you, you may just want to gut it out for the next few months until your lease is up.