Roommates Boyfriend is always at the apartment. Help?

CTScoutmom
Wed, 12 Sep 2018 15:12:02 +0000

Since he’s there all the time, maybe talk to the roommate’s boyfriend. Find out why he’s there all the time. Regarding rent, it could be argued that they are using one bedroom and one bathroom, while the OP and her boyfriend use the other, and each is paying half the rent, so asking him to pay rent doesn’t really change anything.

A bigger concern is what happens in January - who gets to keep the apartment? Does the OP want to stay there, and have the roommate and boyfriend move out, or will she be the one moving? If she plans to move, she should start looking now. And if there is a reasonable option to move now, she can talk to the landlord. Yes, she has a lease, and simply moving would break the lease, but that doesn’t mean the landlord can’t let her out of the lease (maybe he has another property she could move to, resulting in no loss of income to him, and she could lease that through next semester).

The OP doesn’t want to be confrontational, but this is her apartment too. She needs to set boundaries - if he’s not listed on the lease, the boyfriend shouldn’t be there when the roommate isn’t. She does need to be prepared for a swing in the other direction - no overnight guests, including her own boyfriend. Unfortunately the OP opened the door by asking to have her boyfriend stay 3 nights a week, and now the roommate has expanded it. She needs to remind the roommate that 5-7 nights a week is not what they discussed. He is not only occupying her private space, but also the common spaces, which restricts the OP’s usage of some of the space she’s paying for.