Sad to say I have given up

BPDgirl
Sun, 31 Jul 2011 15:33:17 +0000

Oh. A note on manipulative behavior. (Yes, borderline behavior is manipulative. No, I don’t call people manipulative because that’s like saying you’re bad because you were mean to somebody. No, you’re good and bad. You did a good thing or a bad thing. You know?)

Here’s some of the most manipulative behavior EVER. Both my best friend who has borderline and I have self-harmed in front of people we love. Seems like we’re trying to upset them and get them to do what we want, right? Nope. We both agree we did it because we hurt SO MUCH that we wanted to them understand even 1% of it and that was the only way we could imagine conveying it.

It is very wrong, and yet it’s also very sad – both for the person that is terrified to see their loved one self-destructing, and the one self-destructing.