Sadness at the end of winter break

bxian
Mon, 17 Jan 2005 21:54:49 +0000

I think what got me was that when D was around, she seemed to appreciate us more and was very affectionate-but her time at home also made me realize that she has to start making her own life as a young adult (which she is eager to do). The director of student life at her school told us at orientation that freshman often go through a period of trying out “new” identities to see what fits. That is precisely what D seems to be doing-over break, she decided that she would no longer continue with an activity that she pursued avidly first semester (a sport)-it took up so much time that she had no time left for other interests that she wanted to explore-so as much as she enjoyed the camraderie that came with being part of a team, she has decided to quit after much soul-searching. The boyfriend break-up also came after much soul-searching-she decided that she was spending too much energy pining for him (he is 4 hours away) at the expense of forming friendships at school. She seems to be handling the breakup OK so far (it’s only been 2 days). It’s me that is having a tough time. Her BF treated me like his second Mom-he calls us from school just to say hi and always calls to tell us that his flight got in OK when he flies back to school after a visit home. He is one of the kindest kids you would ever want to meet. I am hoping they will be able to maintain their “best friendship” (which is how they started even before dating).