Senior Son Serious Academic Issues

lookingforward
Sat, 26 Jan 2019 19:31:54 +0000

Both of my girls went through shifts at about the same time. They’re evolving. One of my bff’s sons refused to interact with her, was a mess. Partly this is what sometimes happens in later teens, partly a growth shift/confusion. Harder with boys than girls, sometimes. It helps to sort what’s parent related vs what’s a life issue.

Many of us found we had to speak with our kids obliquely, a little off topic, no direct questions, no specific advice. (Yes, can be exhausting.) And at the same time, show openness and concern, when needed.

I agree, the question is: did something happen? (Versus normal teen angst and stresses.) Trying the oblique approach might be: “Sonny, if something happened, I would want to help however I could, the lines of communication are open on my side, just you and me.” Stop there. Repeat once in a while, without nagging.

One of mine had a therapist she did not connect with. Changing was the lifesaver. Not all therapists are versed in teen and college- age specifics and the fronts kids can put up. Worth it to find the right match.

Best wishes.