Should I have an open relationship?

hyperJulie
Sun, 18 Apr 2010 02:20:09 +0000

I don’t know what I think about this personally (I’m more of a monogamous type person), but I do have a friend who identifies as polyamorous. For a while, she was dating two people at once, and all people involved were aware of it, though I can’t vouch for how happy either of her partners were with the situation.

I think the only circumstance being with multiple people at once is acceptable is when everyone is completely informed, aware, and okay with the situation. If the girl you’re with currently is not okay with you dating the other girl you’re attracted to, then it’s absolutely not acceptable to attempt to be with both.

One thing I wonder though is do you love your current girlfriend? If you don’t, and you just want to be with both for twice the action, then that’s garbage. If you legitimately feel a real emotional connection to both, then it’s somewhat less clear. There are some who say that some people have the capacity to be truly in love with more than one person. I don’t understand it personally, but I won’t straight up say it’s wrong because that happens to be what the culture I was raised in believes.