Should I leave a good school if I'm miserable there?

anon94785555
Tue, 26 Sep 2017 17:17:46 +0000

We can analyze and advise all we want to here but you need real life help. That said, here’s my input.

Best thing you are doing is to meet with the psychologist at your school. You have a backup plan to move home and attend a local school there if need be.

However, from what you have posted here I believe your problems will not be solved with yet another school change (agree that has no effect on future employment- your degree will be from one place). Also- moving home is an escape from adulthood, a step backwards, not forwards. You need the psychologist’s evaluation and advice. It may be part of your treatment plan to retreat to the safety of your home for now or it could be the worst thing you can do.

Your last post about your major is significant. Others have commented on your theme of getting a job. You need a job that fits you, you do not make yourself fit a job you misperceive as an answer to employment. Your school offers you the psychological assessment. It also offers career advising and testing for interest/compatibility with different fields. If your psychologist does not suggest that make an independent trip to that part of student services.

From all I have read here you sound like a typical student who doesn’t yet have a clearly defined path. You are not alone in this, nor abnormal. You are stuck at a pivotal point in your life. Using the school’s resources should help. Going home to the local school will not solve your problems. Seeking intervention is excellent. It will not be easy/simple/the solution but it will give you insights and get you on track.

Perhaps the fraternity is not right for you. You live in the dorms so you can choose to dissociate from it if it does not meet your needs. You may find doing things with people outside the frat, and in your dorm, may suit you better.

It is encouraging that you like some classes. No one likes all of their classes, even in their ideal major, btw.