Should I stay or should I go?

DadTwoGirls
Wed, 09 Aug 2017 22:46:41 +0000

There is a lot in this post that isn’t said, so I am likely to ask questions more than anything else.

The first question is: What have you done to deal with your depression? Have you seen a psychologist and/or psychiatrist and if so what has come of it? Depression is very common. Treatment for it has improved tremendously over the years. However, it can still take a while to get the treatment correct. Also, sometimes patients don’t “click” with the first counselor and have to try other’s before finding the right person to help you deal with your depression.

Once that it dealt with, the next two questions might be: Do you know what you would want to major in at university? What sort of budget do you have? Can your parents help with the cost of education?

It is not unusual for students to go back to university in their mid 20’s or later (sometimes much later) and do very well. Older students often have a better idea what they want to study, and have a better idea why they want to study. This can lead to better motivation and a clearer direction towards whatever degree makes sense in each case. I think that it is very difficult to both work full time and also take enough university classes to make a reasonable amount of progress towards a degree. Thus if the finances work then you might want to think about whether to go back full time.

One thing that I can say as an older parent: I know that I am not going to live forever. I am fine with that and it doesn’t worry me at all. Before I go I would like my kids to be solidly on their feet and on track for an appropriate career. I have no idea what you mean by “my father isn’t doing very well” nor do I have any idea what his finances look like. However if I were in his shoes I think that getting you on track would be more important to me than getting myself on track.

I am thinking that there is much here for you to talk about with your parents.