Should Parents or Students Make the Decision?

DAndrew
Tue, 10 Apr 2012 14:20:46 +0000

Well, how many times and varieties of “if a kid can’t do xyz, he/she is probably not ready for BS” have we heard? I bet if we apply all of them to our own kids, most of them should’ve been kicked out of the BS door! Seriously, the decision discussed here is a difficult decision to both parents and kids - you’d know if you have gone through one yourself. Often times, you find yourself having a “looping around” discussion with your kid - you vote for school A, the kid says something nice about school B; you vote school B, the kid talks about something not so nice about school B… If you as an adult have a difficult time making the distinction and “pulling the plug” (read the recent post from a parent about their decision between SPS and Groton), do you expect your 14 year old to do it by themselves? When the deadline is looming, and a decision must be made, a more “sophiscated” parent, as ops suggested, would subtly throw weight on one side and let the kid pull the plug thinking they have made the decision while a not so sophiscated parent would take the lead and pull the plug themselves. To the two kids who posted here, I’d rather just reassure them that there’s no wrong choice, and now that a decision has been made, don’t look back…