Smart but unmotivated HS junior

DeeCee36
Mon, 20 Feb 2023 15:53:04 +0000

Been following this thread and learning so much. My D24 is so similar to what so many of you have described (though she seems a bit of rarity on this thread in that she is female and so many of these attributes seem to cluster in boys). I worry a lot about her wasted potential but am really coming around to the idea that all I can do is meet her where she is and try to guide. This, in particular, resonates:

vwlizard:

They are going to start their search later. It isn’t important to them right now and they have other things to do. I’m a planner and this can be infuriating, but I’m sure your son always manages to pull it together by the deadline.

It has to be their search. You can give suggestions and guide them, but of the people I know that did the “work” for their kids, all of the kids have ended up at home within the year. He has to be invested.