Smart but unmotivated HS junior

itllallworkout
Fri, 24 Feb 2023 16:32:12 +0000

This is amazing - your kid sounds like my kid and I’ve made the same observation about productive vs consumptive. What I notice, related to the consumptive activities comment, is he doesn’t really quite get he has something to offer the world. He helps teach classes at martial arts and lead activities with Boy Scouts but he doesn’t enjoy it and doesn’t get why anyone would look to him as a role model. We pushed him into those roles. He doesn’t hate them, he just wouldn’t have ever thought to do them himself. When orchestra needed volunteers for hosting a big event - his sister had volunteered and I saw the volunteer list that included his friends, I asked why he wasn’t volunteering. It didn’t seem to have occurred to him, even though his friends were doing it.

You’ve done some serious work researching courses and I look forward to borrowing some of your tactics!