So what now? Advice from a College Senior

isayhello
Mon, 18 Jun 2012 23:49:06 +0000

I think you meant to reply to my post in a different thread, but I’ll answer here anyway- I wouldn’t say “hunting.” Let’s put it this way- all of the top schools are majority white. We know, on top of that, that there are fewer black men than there are black women at these schools. I’ve also observed that a sizable chunk of these men are gay. So the smart, straight black guy knows that he’s rare. The competition is increased; you can respond to that as you will. Some girls will find black men at colleges in the nearby town/city. Some girls keep their boyfriends from home. And yes, some girls date outside of their race. I tried that a couple of times. It’s more complicated and often requires more of the assertiveness I was talking about (like I would actually have to say obvious things to guys like “I’m so into Asian guys” or “I like white guys” before anything happened; take that as you will. If you’re really into the way guys from your own race will openly hit on you/make it happen, it can take adjusting to.)