Some questions about Engagement etiquette

Vladenschlutte
Mon, 05 Oct 2015 14:58:39 +0000

A very good friend (Jewish if it matters) was engaged was simply a delaying tactic on the man’s part. After waiting around for 7 years she broke up and found being older is harder to find someone and she gave up hope of ever having her own children. I don’t necessary think that of the fiance.

An engagement is supposed (at least traditionally) to be a planning period between where the couple decides to get married and when the actual wedding happens, so that the wedding can be planned. Some people don’t use it like that, but traditionally that’s what it is.

I would love it if DS’s GF (or more exactly, her family) would have no strong objection to this extremely simple way to “get the thing done.”

However, I guess very few families would have the “luck” to have this. I may as well not have a pipe dream that we could win this “lottery” as its chance is slim to none.

Probably depends on how big the families are. The fewer the people, the easier it is to just do the city hall thing. My parents just did the city hall marriage and had dinner with my mom’s dad and brother. Though if all the parents are living I’d have to imagine that the wedding route is normal.