Sorority info

asaunmom
Tue, 20 Aug 2013 09:08:11 +0000

Please read through the advice carefully. It’s been mentioned more than once about possible one on one meetings, whether via phone or coffee shop, etc between the PNM and alumn.
No one wrote my daughter a rec without having some sort of personal contact with her. She drove downtown in our city to meet someone at her office after the school day, she met another lady at the local coffee shop, she met one at a friend of a friend’s son’s birthday party, etc. The alumni can be “strangers” but remember you got her name from somewhere or somebody. It’s not like it’s a random run-in.
Remember–it’s not just someone who is willing to write a rec but it’s them sticking their neck out for a PNM. Most alumn are aware that they are responsible for that particular PNM when they agree to write a rec. I do know that some recs aren’t exactly glowing.
Alumn will snoop around, ask around, find out what they can before they write a rec. If your daughter’s social media is questionable, get it cleaned up now. If she doesn’t want Pastor so and so or grandma to see some things that she may have on FB or Twitter, etc, then trust me, she doesn’t want an alumn writing her rec to see it either!
Think of it as a job interview when asking an alumn to write a rec. She’ll find much more out about you than you will about her. She still needs to be herself. A rec is to voice the alumn’s opinion about whether the PNM is a good candidate for their organization or if she presents a liability. Liability meaning grade risk, questionable social behavior, unladylike personal conduct, etc.
The PNMs rec packet should contain accurate and honest information; i.e. social resume, academic resume, gpa transcript from the school (not just stated), a brief introduction of who she is written by her, why she wants to join a sorority, senior pics, etc. It should be a well-rounded summary of who she is. It is definitely not something that should be thrown together overnight.