Stick it out or transfer in the fall?

thumper1
Mon, 28 Oct 2019 21:18:18 +0000

The social scene at a school predominantly Greek is very hard to navigate if you are not part of that system. And some students just are not interested in being part of the Greek system. There is absolutely no way this can be explained to a HS student. I think it’s one of those things you experience first hand and you either love it…or not.

If this student has other activities to be involved with, and a peer group with similar not Greek interests, fine. But that doesn’t sound like the case.

My Stone Age story…most of my very very good friends pledged as second semester freshman. I didn’t. My roommate wasn’t even asked…and she was heartbroken. I knew I was transferring and asked if I could give my invite to her. Of course, the answer was no. That sealed the transfer deal for me. Her was someone who actually wanted to be part of the Greek system, and was excluded.

The roommate stayed at the school and graduated. She never really had a circle of friends. All upperclass housing was Greek (each group had a dorm) but were required to allocate a certain number of rooms for those who were not in sororities. I just can’t imagine living like that.

I transferred to a medium sized public university in my home state…and never looked back (except to visit my friends from the school every so often).

It was a great college… but it wasn’t for me. Just like this college might not end up being for this young man.

Remember…this student is going to college…not you parents. He has to live there, and be happy there. It’s great that the parents like this school, but if the kid is not happy there…they need to be very supportive of him transferring. Not wishy washy supportive (we love your current school…).