Sticky social situation — how to handle

conmama
Wed, 06 Apr 2016 16:32:00 +0000

I think a lot of it depends on how easy it is for you to confront people, and how you do it. I don’t like confrontation so I let things slide if it’s a one time deal, which it sounds like this is. She’s not a friend, and I also wouldn’t pursue it. I think you have to weigh the gratification of putting someone in their place to any future consequences. That always tempers my response.

What would happen if you told her off? She’s not a friend, so no loss there. But will you be running into her again? How awkward. Does she run in the same circle as you and has potential to meet new people that you would too?

Now you’ve made an enemy that will gossip about you…and to people who don’t know you.

I’d tread lightly over these things. You need to be proactive from now on with these types. If there is no response, then you just have to let them know that since you haven’t heard from them, you are assumimg they aren’t interested in participating any longer…then move on without them.