Swarthmore & Vassar

China
Sat, 15 Nov 2008 01:45:08 +0000

Momrath and danas - I absolutely agree with what you are saying. But what if his “gut” isn’t really telling him anything, or at least not telling him it too strongly? Being on campus and hanging out with the “guys,” he feels sure he could be happy at either school.

He is definitely not a huge party guy - he’d pretty low key. He hangs out with a combination of teammates and classmates (some “jocks” and some “nots”). He’s the kind of kid who genuinely does like all sort of people - athletes, musicians, artists. His personal interests are pretty wide. One favorite is weight training; another is reading. I think he’ll find plenty of people at either school he’d be happy to spend the next four years with.

Basically, out of all of the schools we visited (and it’s been quite a few since the fall of his junior year), there haven’t been any that have bowled him over. There hasn’t been one college that caused him to say, “This is it. I have to go here.” At this point, he’s narrowed it down to a pretty short list, with Swarthmore and Vassar being at the top. Honestly, I think that the “you’ll know it when you feel it” thing is what is causing him so much conflict. He feels it, but not in any overwhelming way. Do you think that some kids just sort of figure it out once they’re there?