The boyfriend back home

oldfort
Tue, 15 Sep 2015 22:34:38 +0000

D2 is a senior in college, so a bit older than OP’s daughter. It is the first time she has a long distance relationship. Her BF is going to a a school 3-4 hours away, but he has a car and such. D2 has the LSAT early Oct and I am paying a lot of money for tutoring. Before she left for school, I made a deal with her. I asked her not to have her BF visit her the month of Sep so she could focus on her test prep, in exchange she could go visit him for her long midterm break instead of coming home. I don’t like to go too long not seeing her, so I will go see her the weekend of her exam (after the exam). She thought it was a reasonable schedule. She also told me weekends they would be seeing each other. I am fine with it as long as she is paying for transportation and she is maintaining her grades. I did remind her that it’s her last year at school and she should spend time with her friends.

I like to know what’s going on with my kids instead of having them hide things from me because they think I may disapprove. If I were OP I would have a discussion with the daughter to work out a reasonable visiting schedule, so the daughter would tell her when the BF is there. I think the main concern is if the daughter is taking the full advantage of her college experience and able to keep up her grades with the BF visiting. It is all about balance.