Thinking about transferring out of Cornell

CALSmom
Sun, 17 Dec 2017 20:34:42 +0000

@holi47 sorry you’re having a rough time.
My suggestion is to stay the course as you may not improve your situation outside of Cornell. I agree that it can be isolating living in Ithaca but that’s where you have to put in the work to develop and maintain social relationships. High school is different and I read a lot here on CC about kids who complain how they’re not making friends or that the friends they do make in college isn’t the same as in high school. In HS your friends go back to your middle school days and even as far back as elementary school so you have a different bond. In college, you’re not going to forge deep relationships like your childhood ones right away. It takes time and with everyone having their own academic schedule in college you’re not seeing the same people over and over everyday and having lunch with them either. Wait until you graduate and are working in the real world. Your chances of making deep friendships go down even further than college. That’s the way life is.
Keep in mind you’re also in a major and school that’s very competitive and the type of students you’re in classes with are going to be studious and not super social. This is where you will have to make an effort to join a club and make different type of friends who aren’t CS/engineering students.

I hope you can seek help for your depression and I wish you the best.