Thinking about transferring out of Cornell

monydad
Sun, 17 Dec 2017 19:55:46 +0000

Re #15, I remember a friend was in a very demanding job he did not love, he was advised to take his satisfaction from his life outside of work.

Problem is, OP is not getting that either.

Re #13, I could have written it too, at times. And I know exactly what times they were. They were when I was not succeeding socially. And also when I was not succeeding academically. When those fronts were going ok or better, I was fine. Or better than fine.With the same workload, and the same prevailing social scene. The problem wasn’t really the environment, it was me.

I agree with #15, the right people are there, and for whatever reason OP has not found them.
That’s why I think OP should really focus on improving his non-academic situation next semester.

Though the workload is demanding, there * is* time to have a more satisfying social experience than OP has found for himself so far. OP should carve that time out and focus on what might make him happy, or happy enough, where he is. Counseling might help with that.

I do believe though that at some point, if it is not going to happen there, for whatever reason, after really trying to fix things, leaving can improve one’s situation. It helped my D2. But it has to be done intelligently, to someplace that is really likely to be better for OP.

It would be better to fix things, on the social/activities side, where OP is now though. And I think this is possible.