Thoughts on sorority life?

yourmomma
Sat, 30 Mar 2019 22:36:48 +0000

Good point on the sorority houses, my D’s also doesn’t allow alcohol on the premises so there are no parties at the sorority house so all of the ones are hosted by fraternities. At the parties, they have to check in and also check out so people know who is there. In the Fall I was down for a Fathers weekend and one of the events was a fraternity party. While it was a little wild I did witness first hand some of the rules they have in place. The sorority also requires several girls to be “sober” monitors during these events. They rotate who is the “sober” and the girls actually where shirts with the word “sober” printed on them so they are easily identified. Their job if they see someone getting out of control or at risk is to get them out. Its not 100% but at least they are taking steps to try and keep things as safe as they can. I know when my wife was down for Mom’s weekend she also went to a fraternity party but based on what she told me, it was much more tame with the moms than what I saw and experienced.

On the social media aspect, I know my D’s sorority is very strict about what they post and what the girls can post. A big part of that is the sorority wants to control their marketing image on social media. My D post very little on her social media compared to what she would in high school. She will snap chat us a bit more to share things that she won’t put on Instagram.

This is all about risk management. In these times, one unfortunate incident or post by 1 or 2 members can bring down an entire house.

There are parties and there are parties.

At some schools, the officially sanctioned parties at fraternity or sorority houses are the tip of the iceberg. Other parties take place in off-campus apartments or houses where some of the juniors and seniors who are members of the Greek organization live. And at those parties, there is no supervision and the rules don’t apply.

You may want to ask whether this sort of thing goes on at your daughter’s college.

One of the side effects of the crack down on Greek organizations is it pushes things “off campus.” Things can get a lot more dangerous and out of control. I posted a story back in September about a visit to a “college bar” over parents weekend. (@dcolosi would know the place just steps from campus on Kirkwood). It was alarming to say the least – vomit on the floor, 100s of kids “dancing” on raised platforms (prob 3 feet off the floor), falling down drunk everywhere. Frankly made fraternity parties look like dinner at Grandmas. God only knows what’s going on at unregulated locations.

Some schools limit the type of alcohol that can be served at fraternities to canned beer and boxed wine. I prefer that to the schools where they serve ‘punch’ and students have no idea how much alcohol they are drinking.

Another side effect of trying to “limit” alcohol consumption. Clear vodka and everclear punch is easier to hide and 10x more dangerous than miller lite. Today, I don’t think there are any fraternities that allow hard alcohol – I think most (if not all) national offices have banned hard alcohol on fraternity premises. In exchange, beer and wine are “allowed.”