Thoughts on sorority life?

greenbutton
Sat, 30 Mar 2019 12:02:48 +0000

OP, keep in mind that sororities target certain girls that they want. It may be looks, to improve social power. It may be grades, to improve the gpa of the group. It may be position, to improve group status & visibility. It is a very deliberate, planned, and orchestrated campaign. It is not about diversity, it’s about conformity. It’s not about friends, it’s about business goals. Of course friendships grow, genuine ones. But that’s not generally how it starts.

Once a prospect is swayed, the most important thing is to keep them away from any other bids; once they have committed, the activities and conformity work to cement the group together. Your daughter was no doubt recruited and it is very hard to resist that sort of attention, especially at big schools where you may feel like a speck in the ocean. Your daughter was a little lonely, and these women offered to be friends. That’s not awful.

Many schools do not allow freshman rush for this reason. I know lots of CC’rs have positive thoughts and experiences, and that’s good. I would keep talking to your daughter as you would about everything, and I think it’s okay to voice concerns gently, from an " I worry…" point of view, not a “you’ve done something dumb” one, of course!

Penn State is campaigning to have their Greek Report Card system be used nationwide. I think it would be quite a shock for many people to see exactly what comparisons and hard data are out there.