Tired of school

Coriander23
Sun, 29 Mar 2015 22:19:36 +0000

Don’t compare your behind-the-scenes to everyone else’s highlight reel. I’ll try to tackle everything in your post because I feel like you’re saying what a lot of students must be thinking right now. Incoming wall of text:

I’m behind a lot of my peers who don’t seem to find the material hard at all.

I don’t know how to say this nicely, but they’re lying. They only pretend like the assignment took them 10 minutes or that the test didn’t require any studying, or that the project assigned was * so easy * when in reality all these things made them stay up late and grit their teeth for want of coffee and respite just as badly. Here’s an article that sums up this phenomenon pretty well: http://www.stanford.edu/dept/CTL/cgi-bin/academicskillscoaching/why-does-the-duck-stop-here/

I started doing research which I found out to be a lot more boring than I anticipated.

In that boat right now. Let’s do ourselves a favor and get the heck out of Dodge.

I’m in a lot of stress and I don’t get much sleep but the other kids I know are not struggling.

I remember you mentioned in previous posts that you were taking mostly engineering courses, which are * tough*. I bet most of your classmates aren’t exactly cruising by either. With that said, could you consider lightening your courseload a bit in subsequent semesters? It’s incredible how much better people can feel with an extra 2-3 hours of sleep each night.

It also seems like my grade is being artificially lowered in a lot of cases.

Curved classes suck, don’t they? Keep in mind that the vast majority of people don’t get A’s in weeder classes and that prospective employers and graduate admission committees realize that. If this is a case of someone being a careless grader, I’d keep a close eye on returned assignments to make sure everything was done properly. And in the future, if possible, choose professors based on review sites and course evaluation catalogues so that you don’t end up with a poor instructor.

I don’t have any real friends in college either. There are some people I talk to sometimes but I don’t have anyone close.

Sort of in the same situation. I knew I was leaving my current school from the start and that made me put little effort into getting to know other people, which was regrettable. College is huge and it’s never too late to start trying, though—try to see if there’s anyone in your residence hall or classes that you’d want to hang out with, invite them places, and see where it goes from there. I’m going to go off on a tangent for a bit because wow, haha. I really have like one friend here. I was trying to think up examples of places you could go to make friends using my own as a starting point, but then I realized I could only think of one. Maybe two. Time to follow my own advice?

Everyone here is just trying to one-up each other, always bragging about their accomplishments, always trying to get something out of people. I’m pretty sick of it.

Yeah, you should be. Those aren’t your friends, get them out of your life. People like that are millstones and they’ll drown you.

I have horrible hygiene now, my room is disorganized and uncomfortable. There are days when I just sit for hours…

Showering is one of the most cathartic things you can do when you’re stressed out. Cleaning your room is as well, surprisingly (I don’t think I realized this growing up, but then again as a ten year old I never had an entire night’s worth of papers and problem sets to complete). I think it’s a lot easier to focus when your work environment is uncluttered and conducive to learning.

I love studying, but I hate school.

I actually like school but hate studying, haha. From rock climbing to robotics, try participating in activities that’ll take your mind off work for a few hours. I think the biggest takeaway here is that you have a lot on your plate and are understandably stressed out because of it. Take a step back and take a deep breath.

Things’ll change. Call your family and let them know how you’re feeling. I promise they’ll understand and that their support for you won’t waver because of a test grade or transcript. Best of luck!