To black women?

sydsim
Wed, 26 May 2010 08:49:20 +0000

Having been blissfully married for almost 16 years, I feel that i can speak from experience. (Sorry to be a lurker, but I do have a daughter who will be college bound in a few years)

I think that people marry the wrong people. If you have been in a relationship with this person, and break up every other month, why go ahead and marry them? Because they are settling, assuming that they can’t do better.

Also, if you find yourself involved with loser after loser, recall your basic math and find the common denominator - YOU! People have to work on themselves, in order to attract the type of person that they SHOULD be with. If I keep dating jerks, what does that say about me (what am I doing to attract these jerks, and why do I accept this behavior during our relationship).

This was my life, before I realized that I was the problem in all of these scenarios. I asked God to change me, I worked on myself, and BOOM, my husband walked into my life.

Neither my husband, nor I had any childhood role models of a happy, long lasting marriage. Fortunately, our daughter, her friends and our nieces and nephew will.