Top Scholars Weekend -- April 2014

fallenchemist
Wed, 09 Apr 2014 23:41:52 +0000

@jocjarmom - You are not sounding totally negative at all. It is the impression your D and H had. That’s just the way it is, it cannot be right or wrong. I could be off on this, but it really sounds like her uncomfortableness with NOLA was the most critical factor in the decision. Not saying it was the only thing, but it seems to dominate somehow. In that aspect, she absolutely isn’t the first and won’t be the last. That is how it is with eclectic places. I know people that have strong negative feelings about San Fran because there were so many homeless hassling them, and they hated all the hills, lol. I love San Fran. Many people hate the noise and congestion of NYC, even as students. I probably would have been one of them. Obviously most people revel in all the opportunities of NYC. It just is what it is, and once you feel uncomfortable it is hard for much else to seem good. Which is not to say her other issues were not real to her, but that there becomes little reason to find positives once you think there is no way you could live in a place. I don’t think anyone is put off by your comments at all. It is, in fact, interesting to compare impressions and continue to observe how differently two people can see the same thing. It really reinforces the whole narrative about fit being such a critical factor when it comes to college selection, rather than some of the other factors people sometimes (erroneously, IMO) get focused on.