Transferring next semester and I'm feeling guilty

ThunderThor77
Mon, 09 Nov 2015 11:29:01 +0000

I’m a freshman attending my first semester of college at a small private school. I didn’t know where I wanted to go to school when applying my senior year of high school, but I decided on this school for the sole reason that it’s close to me. About a week or two before the semester started, I kind of realized I wanted to be away from home for school but obviously that was too late. I decided to give the private school I was originally attending a chance.

I’ve been there for a bit more than two months now and the experience has been quite terrible. I don’t like the school in general but on top of that, I have made zero friends. I went to the one club that interested me a couple of times to try and be involved but I didn’t like it.

On top of my loneliness at school, I am pretty depressed to be away from my girlfriend. We met on the internet years ago and started dating earlier this year. We spent most of the summer together over Skype and she really makes me feel special compared to anyone else. Say what you want, but a relationship is a relationship regardless. It sucks being away from her and I luckily managed to visit her at her school twice. When I got to her university, I was amazed. I loved the campus and city the school was in. I also became friends with her friends, which was special to me considering I had none at my school.

After thinking about it a lot, I decided I wanted to transfer to her school. I can’t deal with being unhappy without being with her, and I also can’t stand living at home and going to a school I don’t like with no friends. Obviously the main reason for transferring to her school is to be with her, but I also really enjoy her school and the town it’s in like I said. Not to mention my step sister lives out there and I would be farther away from home like I’ve wanted. I’m majoring in psychology currently and while the school’s psychology program isn’t known for, neither is the psychology program at the school I’m currently attending. And yes, I’ve thought about all the negative outcomes of doing this and I’m fine with them. If we do happen to break up, I’ll be happy I’m at the school with new friends and a new experience.

My mom is supportive of my decision. My friends, however, have been less supportive. They think it’s dumb that I want to transfer to her school because of her and think I should be looking at schools with a better psychology program. Of course that should be the main reason for transferring to a different school, but honestly that wouldn’t matter because I’d still be unhappy without her and I do like her school a lot. My friends are making me feel pretty guilty and it’s making me feel like my decision was completely stupid.

I am pretty happy with my decision and think this will be good for me, but the more I talk to people the less I feel this way. I just want some words of support I guess. Has anyone else gone through something like this with a positive outcome? Anyone with some supportive advice?

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