Transferring

SOSConcern
Mon, 19 Oct 2015 00:21:46 +0000

Honestly, you are having several issues - homesick, the grass is greener, selfishness (about this school giving more financial aid and you don’t care about that - clearly your mother saw that the place you are at is great for the cost/benefit, and you have a very immature attitude about affordability and how your mother has to think about her own personal finances, having enough for retirement while not either taking on debt or saddling you with student loans either).

There are a lot of techniques to find happiness - first you find it inside. You like yourself. You look to the opportunities at hand to better yourself and work towards your short term and long term goals.

You look to how you can be of service to others around you. Are you feeling so sorry for yourself that you are a real downer, or are you fun to be around? You have to put yourself out there. Are you being kind to your roommates? Why are people avoiding you?

I do not buy the label that the school is a big party school. Every school has the par-tiers.

You think other friends are having a good time because they went where they wanted to go? Again, the grass is greener.

My DD has a room-mate that had to get an attitude adjustment because she wanted to go to another school too. This gal has been very privileged, and is not getting along well with room-mates because she is so self centered, has no clue when she does selfish things. It is all about her.

You need to adjust your attitude and seek out how to find your tribe socially. Transferring will not solve your problems. Get your degree where you are at.

This reminds me about a woman who says she hates her job - yet she enjoys the pay, benefits, etc. She needed to start writing down what she liked and turn her attitude around.