Transferring

Gumbymom
Sun, 18 Oct 2015 16:27:53 +0000

I am sorry you are so unhappy but if you are not footing the bill for college and your parents are, then they have a say on where you attend. Financial aid is a big deal if you are not paying the bills. As an OOS student, California schools can cost upwards of $55K/year so unless you are independently wealthy, your parents are correct in their belief that you should attend a school with good financial aid. I am sure your Mom is aware of your unhappiness, so what does have to say about the situation other than supporting your transfer?

You are only a few months into your Freshman year and you need to give yourself more time to get adjusted to the school. Every school has parties and every school will have students that feel the same way you do. You need to seek out these type of students. Christian clubs are a good source for like minded students. Also many freshman make the mistake that their roommate will be the their best friends. Although not an ideal situation, if you can at least tolerate each other, you are in a better place than if you absolutely hate each other.

Make a conscious effort to put yourself out there and to talk to students in your classes. Ask to sit with some students at lunch or dinner and try to get a conservation going. It is very hard to try to forge new friendships after HS, but if you make an effort and I am sure it will pay off.

I would also seek out your campus counseling center since I am sure you are not the only Freshman that feels the same way. If you find that transfer is your only option, I caution you in that depending upon which schools you plan to apply, many will only accept Junior level transfers. Also you will be starting all over again, trying to forge friendships from scratch. Remember the grass is not always greener somewhere else.

Good Luck and if California is your dream, consider attending Grad school.