Un-Divorce?

soozievt
Wed, 04 Aug 2010 09:32:15 +0000

Mantori…I think it’s different for couples who stay together who may not be that happy together, than the situations being described in the article. Those situations in the article appear that the couple really isn’t together except under the roof and are also in relationships with others. They are not connected on any level, it seems.

I know of an odd situation like this and I truly cannot fathom it. My husband’s brother is divorced and lives alone. For a number of years, he has been in a relationship with a woman who is still married and lives with her husband and this is very open (her husband knows about it) and in fact, my brother-in-law and this woman go away together, visit my in-laws, etc., all openly. After all these years of their relationship I cannot fathom why she doesn’t get divorced (except for money reasons I suppose) and why my brother-in-law would want to be with someone who cannot commit fully to him and still goes home most nights to her home with her husband (who she may be only married to in name only, i have no clue). Perhaps he is content in that he may feel he has the best of both worlds, a life on his own but a woman for a relationship. But I find it all very odd. It is not the same as a regular “affair” in that this woman’s husband is very aware that his wife is in a long term relationship with my brother-in-law. I’ll leave it at that, but actually my sister-in-law (husband’s sister) is also in a very unusual relationship situation!