Unhappy at Notre Dame

NervousDad2016
Tue, 28 Feb 2012 14:24:44 +0000

There are a few holes in the original post that make me wonder…

For instance, why would you “have to go another year like this”? Are you unaware that you can change roommates each year? Also, nowhere in your post do you mention any specific actions you have taken to get out of this situation. You are talking about behavior that at ND can result in expulsion. Are you telling us that the administration doesn’t care?

If this post is real, my guess is you haven’t done anything really concrete to get out of the situation. Or, you haven’t made the scope of the problem clear. No one wants to be a rat, we all understand, but if you aren’t willing to completely explain your situation no one will think the problem necessitates a mid-year change.

So, if this post is real, my advice is to explain in exact detail to your rector or res life rep (Don’t talk to your RA…this goes beyond RA–the RA is either clueless or complicit and unlikely, therefore, to help too much.) Put everything on record. The university will not ignore your situation if they fully understand it.

Be prepared for fallout, though. You will be telling on other students. You may be stigmatized. Every action has consequences. You have to make the decision.

There are alternate courses of action. I had a friend who disliked his freshman roommate so much that he slept on the couch in my quad for just about the whole year. Can you “unofficially” change rooms? Don’t ask. Just do.