Virginity and Going Away To College

SuNa
Thu, 20 Dec 2007 19:55:53 +0000

Well stated, Lockz. Of course the decision is up to our kids: they have the freedom to do what they want as soon as they can drive.

My daughter used to tell me how some of her soccer teammates (ages 16, 17, 18) would brag about having casual, almost anonymous sex. It was like if they had sex with an athlete at their school, they became cooler. I wondered at the time what the girls were really getting. . . was the perceived increase in status worth the risks they took? Was this something truly pleasurable for them? It made me sad.

She is now 23. Over Thanksgiving she told me she would NEVER go out and get drunk and sleep with someone she had just met. But her roommate does this often (prompting worried mom here to wonder what kind of men are being brought back to DD’s apartment).

I don’t know; I’m just concerned about girls/women being exploited or perhaps more accurately, letting themselves be exploited.