Virginity and Going Away To College

mythmom
Fri, 21 Dec 2007 09:33:32 +0000

In NYS the above would not be statutory rape, nor do I think it should be. The age of consent is 17, but the law does not apply if the teenagers are three or less years a part, unless the girl is under 14. I think this is fair. I don’t think boys should be held responsible for what their consenting girl friends do. Bad message about both. That she isn’t able to think for herself and that he needs to protect her. Greater age difference? Okay. Adult? Certainly. But 16 and 19? Not in my book. YMMV.

As for early marriage, I have so many conflicting thoughts such as, if a girl can conceive and does shouldn’t she be allowed to marry if it is a happy event for all concerned?

Our modern society is so complex that many of our kids won’t be self-supporting until past twenty-five (I’m thinking of the law school and med school my kids want to attend). Should they not be allowed to marry or to have sex until then? How could we stop them?

Will and Ariel Durant who together wrote The History of Philosophy met when he was her teacher and she was 14. He was 28. Her parents allowed them to marry. Now, he would lose his job. (She was a student!) But as a young girl I wanted to be her. A smart, caring, fascinating 28 who was in love with me? That would have been my dream at 14. My D would say ew!!! She is almost 21 and a three year difference is her limit. I have dated people ten years younger (one actually) 34 and 24, not a cradle robber, and thirteen years older (one), 32 and 45, and both felt perfectly comfortable and appropriate. Current H is my age, exactly.