Weddings and the Catholic Church

jym626
Sat, 23 Jun 2018 12:50:52 +0000

Massmomm:

, Catholic rules don’t matter to a non-Catholic. If you’re not compliant with their rules, you’re not married in their view, but why should this matter? You are still married in the eyes of the law.

Not sure which post from several days ago you are responding to, @Massmomm, but it was a genuine question to understand, as the discussion was talking about the “rules” to “remarry” in the eyes of the church, and not being a member of that religion, it was an attempt to understand from that POV. It isn’t about whether it “matters”. Not sure if you meant your post to sound snarky, but it did. Apologies if you didn’t intend it to sound that way, but that’s how it came across.

My s is marrying a Catholic in a week (first marriage for both, no one is remarrying) , and clearly from the discussion here, their marriage will not be considered “valid” in the eyes of the church. But no, it doesn’t “matter” to most of us in the family. Not sure if it will or won’t “matter” to her dad, based on what he said to his kids a long time ago, but given his behaviors, he doesn’t seem to care to follow the church doctrines, so… if it “matters” to him, oh well…