My son shares Claptons sons name. They are both the same age, I remember when his son died falling out of a window, it was the first time I’d heard anyone else with the name, my son was the only one with the name in his grade, several years later that name was everywhere and is now very common. I was asked several times if I named him after him.
Oh I’m aware having lived with an apostrophe my whole life.
But my kids are getting my last name either way. They can blame their dad for forcing the hyphen, too. 
(This is a joke. I survived, our kids will, too. But I wouldn’t do it in their first name.)
Oh no, not Peter. Please. Another name asking for a serious teasing.
Mamaduck- any chance your grandfather’s family might have had, or been Jewish at one time? Thats a common Jewish name.
romani. I did not hyphenate but my first kid has my last name as his middle name. Second kid has a family name on my side as his middle name. There are ways to use your family names without necessarily hyphenating the last names.
sev, this is a discussion I’ve had on here and with my partner many, many times. Neither of us is going to not give our kid our last name as a last name so we’re hyphenating. I will not change my mind and I doubt he is either.
They’ll be fine. Honestly.
ETA: But I think it’s interesting that it almost always comes down to ME giving my last name as a middle or whatever. No one ever suggests that he budge.
Peter? I know several young men (friends/relatives) with this name, and teasing wasn’t an issue.
Could this be regional? (I understand why Dick is no longer popular. . .) Or perhaps that I’m Catholic, so this name has never gone out of style with Catholics? I think of it just as a classic name (maybe more of an older man’s name. . .)
I did hear one mom of a Peter complaining that someone had teased her son. (Their last name was Cox.)
I’m sure they will be fine. Hyphenating is something that has never really caught on, even at its peak. As long as you are prepared that your child will probably be one of very few kids with a hyphenated name, it is all good…
And I just saw your edit about not budging about a last name. For me, it was just a matter of realism, not wanting to complicate matters. If you and your husband can come to an agreement without it becoming a power struggle, then you will be more than fine. Hyphens are still around to an extent but just be aware that any child of yours will be in the minority with a hyphenated name. But, of course, you seem well aware of that .
I’ve had several good friends named Peter. Maybe they were teased in elementary school, but it’s a classic name, and really, if the kids are looking for something to tease them about, they should have better manners.
I saw Clapton in 1978 at a small theatre in Seattle 10th row, Slowhand tour. Never had seen him before. I don’t think he had an opener or anyone accompanying him.
Speaking of unconventional spelling, how about Jimi Hendrix?
Jimmy, to me anyway, is completely different.
Eric Clapton - he of the Layla and Wonderful Tonight and let-me-steal-you-from-George-Harrison – cheated on Pattie Boyd with an Italian model. Pattie was unable to bear children. That’s where the child who fell out of the window came from, that affair.
I’m like a walking Vh1 Behind the Music, lol.
I have friends named Peter too. But I wouldn’t name my child a name I knew would be taunted. As romani said- there are enough other challenges in life to deal with. These folkd didn’t get the memo http://blazepress.com/2014/06/45-unfortunate-names-ever/
I think that hyphenating names might be somewhat more popular in different parts of the country. My kids have hyphenated names and I remember counting up how many kids had hyphenated names in the program of the school glee club. 10 out of 100. 10% is probably a much higher percentage than many of you have ever encountered.
I don’t think names like Peter and Layla have the reputation today, especially among children, that they apparently did once.
momof3sons, I think it is where you live and also time frame in terms of hyphenating. I’m assuming your kids are in their late teens , early twenties? Peak seems to be maybe kids in 20’s, early 30’s but perhaps I’m mistaken.
I’m a fairly new grandma. My grandbaby has a hyphenated last name. My grandbaby’s parents are at the age where lots of their friends are having babies. The MAJORITY of the infants in their circle have hyphenated last names. Hey, I don’t think it will ever be the norm, but I don’t think it will be all that unusual either.
My son’s middle name, and the name he goes by, has been in the top 10 since 1943! Needless to say, there is always someone else with his name in whatever large group he happens to find himself. His first name is less popular (named after my father) but not uncommon, but he still prefered his top 10 middle name and used to complain as a child that his official, legal first name wasn’t reversed with his middle name so it would be less confusing. (All my teachers think my name is “James!”) As an adult, he has taken to using just his first initial with his middle and last name as his everyday signature.
He took a new job this year where he works in a 2-man office with one other fellow, his boss. Not only does his boss share and go by his very common middle name, but he also shares my son’s first name and uses his first initial and middle name as his signature. So the two administrators in this office are both “J. Daniel .” (not their real names)
In the balance, I'd say having a very popular name, even if common in your cohort, is a lot easier for a child than having a very unusual name. By middle school, his best guy friends started affectionately using his last name to address him, it caught on, and remained the norm throughout high school, with both sexes.
I hired someone a couple of years ago whose name included hyphenated first and last names in which all four were long, and the first two were not commonly used together. Nobody could remember his name and the email naming convention broke it awkwardly.
Who has heard of the race car driver Dick Trickle?
Congratulations, jonri! Are these two hyphenated kids getting together (both parents are already hyphenated)? a becoming parents? How did they decide about whose name goes first if there are as many as 4 names going on? It is certainly interesting to think of all the possible permutations as time goes on.
My oldest daughter has told us that she won’t take the name of her future husband , That is their choice. Having children with different last names has proven to be a challenge for their friends and teachers when they were in the local school system ( I always just politely answered to Mrs R to anyone who made that assumption ) my 17 year old has told me that the students in her grade have felt uncomfortable if they had different last names than their parents or if they didn’t come from a married couple. I suppose that is common in small towns as opposed to more urban areas
My grandmother, who had four boys, gave all 4 of her sons middle names that could be used as last names (Arthur, Louis, etc.) under some assumption that at one point they might have to drop their obviously-Jewish last name and use middle names. Of course, this begs the question that if they really had to do so, they could use any name they liked as a last name, but whatever.
I don’t legally have my husband’s last name but my kids do and I went by my first name my last name husband’s last name for the most part when dealing with doctor’s, schools. My kids’ good friends probably don’t even realize this as they have always called me by kids last name.