what do your SIL's and DIL's call you?

my2sunz
Mon, 15 Feb 2016 16:34:34 +0000

I don’t yet have children in law. My history is that both of my own parents called their in-laws “mom” and "dad, which is what I thought was pretty standard. Each set of my grandparents loved their SILs and DILs as if they were their own; I thought that was just the way it goes and that all of those MIL jokes were just that - jokes. So when I married, I started calling in-laws Mom and Dad (I barely knew them when we married). FIL, whom I liked, has passed away but I have never had a close relationship with MIL and she is one of the few people I can say that I really cannot tolerate well. And every time that I say “Mom” is sticks in my throat and really is unpleasant, but I feel like it’s too late to change now after over 25 years of marriage. So, I pretty much just avoid calling her anything at all, unless absolutely necessary. For some reason that always reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where he can’t remember the name of the woman he is dating, so he just avoids saying anything: “Hey there,…you”