What to do after getting cheated on?

Sikorsky
Mon, 10 Jan 2011 08:52:17 +0000

I agree that putting all his stuff on the front porch was a good start. I also agree, it’s kind of a shame you can’t put all your friend’s stuff on the porch, too.

They both betrayed your trust. And right now, you’re (understandably and appropriately) angry and upset. You shouldn’t decide anything once and for all in this condition.

But once you are rational enough to make some sensible decisions, you should bear the following in mind:


This was your boyfriend. You’re not married, and you don’t have children together. (Make that, I really hope you don’t have children together.) If there are no children, you have no obligation to stay connected to him, and very few impediments to breaking it off completely and permanently if you choose to do so.
It is your prerogative to take him back if you want to. If I were you, I don’t think I’d want to take him back unless he demonstrated a lot of contrition, and the near certainty that he’d make me a lot happier for decades than I was miserable right now.
“Drunk” is never a good excuse.
1, 2 and 3 above apply to your girl friend as well as your boyfriend.


Oh…and I should add, I’m really sorry.