What's wrong with people?

Nrdsb4
Sat, 30 Dec 2017 21:19:36 +0000

@Consolation, a guy I dated for a couple of years had an obsession with snakes. Through the years I dated him, he and his roommates got a python and kept several other harmless varieties in cages in their house. But then he became interested in exotic ones that were deadly poisonous ones. He had two gaboon vipers he kept in a cage in his room. I started becoming terrified that he would be bitten (I’d already lost the first love of my life in a terrible car accident after dating for 6 years) or that they would get out and attack us. I started having dreams that one would get out, chase me, and bite me in the back (because of course I was running away). I finally put my foot down and said I wasn’t coming over anymore if they were going to be there. He relented and sold them (yes,there is a market for poisonous snakes), but he never lost his interest. He was a really sweet guy, but I’m glad I met my DH eventually and broke up with him, because this would have become a huge issue if we’d married and had kids. I wonder if the woman he ended up marrying allowed them in their home. I know they have children in their house, so maybe he ended up concluding on his own that it would be foolish to keep poisonous animals in his house.

Sorry the hijack!

OP, I can’t add anything really helpful except to say that I wouldn’t be approaching that lady in the near future either. She may have had reason to feel uncomfortable, as clearly we all have different feelings about being touched, but I find her reaction to be over the top as well.