"When I Was Your Age..."

cheers
Sun, 31 Oct 2004 15:08:21 +0000

Jamimom, Don’t feel that I have been blindsided, but never say never. Life can twist around and bite you at any point.

Mine was the third generation to go to college, my S’s are the fourth generation. There are pitfalls to affluence and my family was affected by a certain diffidence. For whatever reason, I attached myself to art and architecture and sailed beyond the diffidence. My mother first put me in an art sutdio when I was 12 and she did it because the teachers and neighbors warned her about my troublemaking.

Attachment is the key, perhaps, finding something with the potential for higher meaning. Like your children finding medicine. That’s my focus with my Ss.

I look back at the crazibusiness all the time, devising radical revisions to my parent’s methods–ie banning part-time/afterschool work; a throw-back to my grandparent’s generation. But my parents did the best the could, blindsided or not. They still have lots of worries!