When Parents Get Overly Involved....

london203
Fri, 17 Jan 2014 19:43:52 +0000

@SoxMom: I hear you! What we did instead is hold a family meeting to discuss the report card. Grades themselves were not mentioned. We solely discussed the comments. I wanted my daughter to learn the skill of taking on board what others say about her, and then see how she can address them - in a preventative way. In other words: “what you did well and what you can do better”. Once she knew that, we asked her to tell us (and herself) what she thought she needed to do to be happy with future results. Lest any of you think this was a very calm and orderly meeting, I remind you that this included a teenage girl (and one who was already unhappy with her results). Nonetheless, at great personal risk (of being viewed as meddlesome or worse), I insisted she complete her self-analysis. Truth be told, I also did it because she seems to think that since she is “on her own” now, she doesn’t need to be told ANYTHING by parents. Stay tuned as to whether I interfered too much. I bite my tongue most days, but even I have my limits. LOL