When Parents Get Overly Involved....

Brighty
Fri, 17 Jan 2014 16:52:22 +0000

The title of this thread, “When Parents Get Overly Involved…” grabbed my attention. College prep schools (particularly boarding schools) prepare adolescent kids not only for college academics, but for college life as well. PhotographerMom’s son did his best to approach the roommate with his concern and asked for help from his advisor when he needed additional guidance to solve the continued issue with the roommate.

The boarding experience can be a growth one for us parents, too. It’s our time to learn when to provide guidance to our kids and when to step back and let them resolve issues on their own; leaving them free to feel the success or failure of their own actions (or lack of).

I think too often we parents get overly involved in the ordinary life issues our kid’s experience. Better for us to learn how to assess what it is we need to know and how we can be helpful vs. needing to know and be involved in everything in order to help them avoid failure and thereby never allowing them to enjoy the success of their own actions. This is the struggle that makes me want to devour that bag of M&M’s!