What is the purpose of the “Chance Me at X, Y, and Z Colleges”? And why do we in the CC community (e.g., parents, students, etc) participate? Going back to the OP title, aren’t we too “shaping and passing judgment” on students by participating in stuff like this?
Outside of colleges that are strictly numerical on admissions, isn’t the answer on these “chance me” posts simply this: “Who knows?” The colleges themselves, along with CC and other websites, provide so much information about these colleges, shouldn’t those seeking the “chance me” be directed to that info? And shouldn’t we, as parents etc, direct them there too, rather than validating stuff like “HYP”, “HYPS”, “HYPSM”, “Ivies”, “T-20”, etc?
I don’t mean to be critical of CC or any of its posters. I am just not sure what purpose is served, especially when kids write pages about themselves in their OP (and, sometimes, stuff that is hard to believe), when asking us to “Chance me at HYPSM, other Ivies, and T-20s”. AFAIK, I’ve never participated in one of those posts, as I am no expert. On top of that, it seems a bit strange to be responding to a question like this when we all agree that no one really knows.
This seems to propagate the notion that this actually means something (i.e., the chance, the schools they are asking about, and the categorization of those schools).
On edit: maybe the balance is that a “chance me” works at a particular school level. But to request folks to “Chance me at HYP, other Ivies, Stanford, MIT, and CalTech and other T-20s” is compounding the problem of elevating schools in these false categorizations. By acquiescing in such “chance me’s” by responding, I think we need to ask ourselves are we also a potential “shaper” and “judgment passer” referenced in the OP title.