Why does it seem like nobody's looking to make new friends?

fumafoo101
Thu, 03 Nov 2011 21:44:33 +0000

Similar situation I’m facing. I tried the first week, and I got to know a few people but it didn’t amount to anything. I joined a freshman interest group for this reason, but because of work and medical problems I wasn’t as involved too much that first week. I think this is what hindered me because after that first week they where all buddy buddy with each other already. I still go to the meetings, and the events that interest me but no one really cares if I’m there or not. Everyone seemed to clique right to their high school people, or someone they already knew at the school. I helped carry one girl’s stuff up to her room because her roommate forgot about her. I only got a thank you. Not that I was expecting anything more, but I thought being helpful and friendly would result in at least a see you around, or what room are you in…at least something to start a conversion.

Now I just go to the club I joined when I can, and to the interest group. I eat alone most of the time, and spend most the time in my room doing homework (its paid off so far I have a 4.0 gpa) I keep the door open when I’m not working. I’m sure my roommate has labeled me as a loner, and I won’t lie it gets pretty lonely and its awkward eating alone when everyone is staring. Now that I’ve decided to transfer out at semester I’m not trying as hard for friends. At my new university I already know some friends and I already have a list of clubs that I want to join. My goal for college isn’t friends but to prove to my family that I can get into physical therapy school which requires a strong gpa, volunteering.