Why does it seem like nobody's looking to make new friends?

RoxSox
Fri, 04 Nov 2011 15:16:01 +0000

Once people have made solid friend groups (often during freshman or maybe sophomore year), they aren’t as actively looking for friends anymore. Not to say that you can’t make new friends, but that’s not going to be something that’s on most people’s radar in the same way.

At the beginning of freshman year I did feel that way - I felt that I didn’t have enough friends and that I wasn’t social enough (because I didn’t know anyone coming to college). Now I feel like I have enough friends and my social needs are taken care of so I don’t really need to seek more people out. If people come to me, cool. But I don’t have that need.

These days if I were going to meet someone new it would probably be through another friend of mine. I don’t feel the need to go out and be social as much anymore when I can chill at my apartment with my friends. If one day I met someone really amazing and awesome, then yeah, I’d totally be down to chill with them. But making new friends isn’t something I’m trying to do on a very active basis.

I also find that friendships come from the most random things…so just live your life as normal, be friendly and outgoing, and everything will fall into place.

Also, bigtexas, the majority of people don’t have friends? What? Most people, from my personal experience (except on CC lol) have plenty of friends and aren’t actively seeking more out. It’s also “niche,” not hitch, lol