Will I ever find out what went wrong?

mnmomof2
Sat, 30 Mar 2013 14:37:21 +0000

First of all: I am sorry for your disappointment. Second: nothing went wrong, it’s just a crap shoot. You did all you could - and CONGRATS on your accomplishments to date. You will do wonderful things based on your past success. My D was in your shoes two years ago. It was brutal (perfect scores, perfect GPA, co-val at huge, amazing high school, state level athlete (but not a recruit), 11 APs with all 5s, great recs, volunteer, etc.) She was devastated! We knew the admit %s, but thought at least one of her four “reach for everyone” schools would have accepted her! Two years later, she is thriving and happy at her #5 school. Her peers are amazing (lots of kids with her resume, so you are not alone)! And, she is in a department that is sort of a niche for this #5 school so it is academically BETTER than schools 1 - 4 in her field. You go to the school that wants you and you literally SHINE at that school. Go in with a positive attitude (which is hard, I know). Don’t be afraid to get help emotional help if you need it (I kept a very close eye on my D for about a month as her self esteem was largely based on her academic work and she was sad and embarrassed by her rejections). You are at the worst time of it now. Hang in there. Focus on your amazing successes and be open minded to your opportunity. Let go of the “what went wrong?” and the “how did S/he get in?” and it will help. Hugs to you.