Will I survive winter break?

franglish
Sun, 23 Dec 2007 08:22:08 +0000

I have to admit I didn’t carefully read all of the above posts, so I don’t know if this was already suggested, but here goes:

Can you ask your parents to help you come up with a solution? Surely they know what you went through in HS and are happy that you have made such good friends at college. That is what we as parents really hope for! I can understand their feeling of losing control and of the fact of having a child at home is no longer true for them. They don’t want to lose their “baby.” I can sympathize. But, they have to learn that you are no longer that person, and they have to believe they did a good job bringing you up and teaching you good values. From what you have written, you are a very responsible and reasonable person. That’s great. Now, your parents need to learn to trust you and themselves. One step might be asking them for their advice on this. You sound like you want to follow their rules, but you also don’t want to be lonely and missing your buds for such a long time. Maybe they can come up with something that you all feel can be a good compromise. They really risk creating a rift between you that will only end up hurting them in the end. Maybe next break you will decide to do other things than come home. They would hate to lose you that way, and that could happen, I would guess.