Will I survive winter break?

frustratedfrshmn
Fri, 21 Dec 2007 14:37:34 +0000

First and foremost, I really appreciate all of the posts suggesting ways to stay in touch with my friends because I am EXTREMELY inconvenient geographically so any kind of suggestion helps me think things out. I also appreciate insight into what my parents might be thinking, since they didn’t tell me. Those are the things I was looking for. Also, keep in mind that it’s hard to address every suggestion in every post. This thread wasn’t really about, let me explain every minute detail of the entire situation. So I know I am getting some posts that say, “Hey, well, you still haven’t answered why you can’t do THIS.” But certain things are difficult for me and that’s that (ex. my parents would not let me drive to another state, so of course driving 6 hrs to my friends would be out of the question in my personal situation). But I am keeping in mind all suggestions that are feasible. paying3tuitions, thank you especially for your very long and thought out post. It was very thoughtful. I am nervous about “entertaining” and have always been, especially with my parents around, but maybe it’s something I have to learn to get over.

A few posts, however, have been very rude and not insightful in these ways. worknprogress, your post bothered me especially. Please do not project what your kids do, or what you witness other kids doing, onto me. I am very responsible around the house, cleaning up after myself as well as my pets, younger sister, and my parents when they are too busy and haven’t gotten to it themselves yet. In my family, that is what we call “chores.” We never did the chart, you take out the trash, you do the dishes, etc. Everyone is just expected to pitch in and do the things that need to be done without being asked. Also, I am an early riser so I usually wake up a bit earlier than the rest of my family actually. So again I hope to not get any comments that rant about what kind of kid I probably am. I guess in general this is why I’m so upset about this situation. I am being called irresponsible, etc. and really I know I have been generally very on top of things and it’s something I really truly put a huge amount of effort into. I don’t like it when I devote so much of myself to being a good family member and a responsible kid and etc. but basically get all of that disregarded.

Good comment about being worried about “reputation.” In fact, my parents did mention that, about “what it would look like.” That bugs me because I don’t think people should be concerned about what others think, they should be concerned about what’s actually going on. It’s really nobody else’s business. But that’s a good point, I can see that one.