Will I survive winter break?

ThisIsJustToSay
Fri, 21 Dec 2007 16:34:01 +0000

Hey there; also a college student. wave

So, I have some sympathy for you, because it sounds like you’re really upset about this, and because I think it’s nice that you managed to meet such close friends in college so quickly, after what sounds like some trouble in high school. Also, you sound like a nice enough person.

In regards to solutions to your problem; there really don’t seem to be that many options. Your friends can go to your place - a six hour drive for some, right? Which is alot to ask, I think. You can go to one of your friends’ (except the “middle” one, I guess) a six hour drive for you.

What you have to realize though, I think, is that your options aren’t so limited because your parents are being unreasonable or even abnormally paranoid. This sounds like a normal rule to me, I personally wouldn’t even ask if I could go 3-6 hours and spend the night at X’s house (when her parents are away to boot), because I know I’d be shot down without even asking.

The problem here, I think, is that you’re making an unusual demand. Most kids who go away to college don’t see their college friends when they’re on break back home. That’s kind of part of the going-away-to-college deal, as far as I’m concerned. Why you would expect to see your college friends who live states away while on break escapes me, to tell the truth.

For the record, since you’re wondering why this rule suddenly appeared - I have no clue about you, but I know that my own parents’ reasoning would go something like

Reputation

As they’re new friends, they don’t know the people I’m staying over with

They’ve just spent months having a very limited to no idea of what I’ve been doing, and now they’ve got me back under their roof and are maybe being more controlling than I’m used to to make up for feeling out of control previously.

To wrap up: It sounds to me like you’re having trouble with this rule because you had certain expectations (seeing/ staying over at your new friends who live hours away). I don’t think your parents are being unreasonable; most parents I know have the same rules for their kids, college or otherwise.

Anyway, I’m sure that in four months, you’ll be back in college enjoying your friends and the six weeks (assuming you never get to see them during break) will seem like less of a big deal when you look back. Till then, well, there’s your phone and the internet. Good luck, but whether you meet up with them or not, I think you’ll live.


Done rambling.