Wish I could force the decision

citygirlsmom
Fri, 22 Apr 2005 12:52:11 +0000

Its interesting. The new adults want to make this decision all alone and suddenly we as parents are supposed to let go of our interest. After 18 years I feel the young adults shouldn’t get angry or annoyed at parents who have given so much- emotionally, financially, time. There is a weaning process that goes on all through kids lives. And kids need to respect that. As these students are making this life decision, which they do need to decide for themselves, they need to understand that it is hard for parents,who have taken care of their children for 18 years to not be interested and concerned and excited.

If I say, have you done this, I would hope my D wouldn’t get mad, and would say, Mom, you know you have done a great job raising me, and I do understand its hard to let go, but trust me when I say you have done a good job and I can handle this because of you and Dad.

It seems kind of sad that sudden adults feel they can just blow off parental suggestions. It doesn’t take much to say, hey yeah, thats a good idea and here are my plans. As parents, we do that with each other all the time. It doesn’t mean we are incapable of doing things, it jsut shows respect for each other.

So the parents are annoying, so what? Teens never annoyed their parents? The kids need to be a little patient with anxious parents as well. That is a real sign of maturity. Understanding that it is hard for the parents,it scary sending their babies so far away.

So teens, forgive your parents their foibles, understand what THEY are going through. Its not all about you. When they ask, give them a hug and say thank you for being here for me.