Wish I could force the decision

citygirlsmom
Fri, 22 Apr 2005 14:58:17 +0000

IF the kid is not responsive and shuts parents out, that’s is when nagging / carping starts. Kids need to take some responsibility in that.
Parents really don’t like nagging. Its true. But if a kid is appearing to not be doing something, and doesn’t share, then the parents start asking questions. Parents reach the point of nagging and carping because kids blow them off. What I tell my D is this, set your deadline three days before actual deadline. Life happens. Things can happen in a family, in a school, with homework, to friends. This way, she has a cushion of time.

With my H, I will ask, did you do that thing? And he will say, well no because of …and that is an answer. Or he will say, yes I did. Sometimes I will have to ask or remind several times. It doesn’t mean no confidence, it means he is busy and forgets. BIG DIFFERENCE.

And kids need to remember everything thier parents did for them to get to this point and cut them some slack. They cut kids slack alot and they probably don’t even notice. Parents aren’t perfect. And so they get a little whiny and annoying. But that doesn’t mean they don’t trust you. It means they care alot and want everything to work out. So kids, give your parents a break and let them in. And if they get naggy and annoying, give them a hug and thank them for everything.