Wish I could force the decision

ariesathena
Fri, 22 Apr 2005 01:59:57 +0000

She knows when the date is. As a pseudo-kid, I can testify as to how annoying it is when parents start carping about things which aren’t even problems. “What are you doing this summer? Have you sent out resumes? You really need to do that! Have you interviewed? Where would you live?” Like I need to have someone make a friggin checklist for me, because I would space out on finding an apartment without parental micromanagement.

My take - if you feel like your kid isn’t capable of getting a college decision in by 01 May, then, newsflash: she’s not ready for college!! If that’s the case - you have a whole other set of issues, namely, figuring out what she’s doing next year that doesn’t involve throwing $40k down the toilet. That would be the issue to deal with head-on instead of dancing around it in an obtuse manner.

Now, my bet is that she’s ready for college and more than capable of making this decision and having the form filled out and in the mail 8 days from now. She knows the deadline. Unless you’ve given her a good reason why it needs to happen NOW, on your time table instead of the college’s, then be patient and wait. Sure, vicarious excitement and stress is not making that easy for you… but it’s vicarious. Most kids can handle themselves and their own stress/emotions about this, but not those of their parents as well.

Rant over.